Social networks becoming an integral part of life, spawned a new phobia — FoMO, or fear can’t catch something important.
Admit it: what are you doing in the first place, opening the eyes in the morning and tearing the head from the pillow? Reaching sweet, concentrated crack my knuckles, doing breathing exercises, and greet the sun, meditate and drink a glass of water with lemon, carefully prepared in the evening? Congratulations — you are in the absolute minority, you may not read further. I, like about 70 % of the working population of developed countries, start the day with a smartphone: email, instant messengers, news and, of course, social networks. Read it, test it, put the huskies, comment on, access the links that already three friends (read: strangers) seemed interesting, — all this is now as much a part of your daily routine, like brushing your teeth and a Cup of coffee. And well, if social media distracts you from reality only in the mornings.
American scientists have calculated that the average user spends in social networks one minute of the four and reveals more than thirty different tabs per hour. What Facebook and Instagram to a greater extent responsible for the inability of modern man to concentrate for longer than ten minutes. Social networks are the main tools of procrastination. And if you still have not handed in the report or did not finish the text, it is more likely that in the next batch of fresh posts, which should immediately examine and then to respond to them, otherwise they will lose relevance, and you’ll be out of the public-a virtual context.
According to statistics, almost 60% of all users of the social networking haunts the unconscious fear to lose sight of what you know and discuss everything. If you have over 500 friends in Facebook, your feed is updated about once a minute or more. Imagine how much time it will take to grasp all new. Life just is not enough. You are watching mad kaleidoscope of texts and images, king Herod looked at the dance of Salome, and can’t. Those who are accustomed to always keep in touch, covers natural panic. The phenomenon is so common that now it has an official name — FoMO (Fear of Missing Out. Psychologists diagnose a new breakdown, published resources popular collection of “10 Instagram accounts that will inspire you FoMO” (an exemplary rich life I live, for example, Rihanna, Hugh Jackman and the stars of “Game of thrones”). Business, as usual, makes for poor money — mobile operators to offer “always stay connected”; social networks expand their spheres of influence and close search engines, and online stores; manufacturers chargers are playing on fear to stay alone with the phone, which the battery. Become increasingly popular applications that allow you to track friends in real — time Periscope and Snapchat. The developers claim that the effect of the constant presence solve the problem of FoMO, but let’s be realistic — in fact, he immerses us in FoMO-the abyss even critics. On her background, there are cognitive disorders — for example, the condition “email apnea” involuntary breath holding while reading e-mail.
The flow of information with each stage of evolution is becoming faster and did not think to wane — or do you always stay on the crest, and did not relax for a minute, or you wash off a powerful wave. “Who owns the information, owns the world” — since the author’s phrase is Nathan Rothschild, nothing has changed. Except that today we could add: “…and is no longer master of himself”.
Well forgotten old
The fear to miss something important appeared not yesterday and not the invention of the computer. People Sensitive that before release, he studied the article in great Soviet encyclopedia, wrote a detailed list of places to visit were placed in this show and was genuinely upset if you are not able to get to the “Mona Lisa” through a crowd of Japanese tourists, has always existed. A buddy of mine before the next trip often sits on TripAdvisor writes the top-rated restaurants and eating solely at the recommendation. One day he and his wife spent three hours wandering the back streets of Verona trying to find that thing and passing is quite a decent institution, by chance not included in the rating application. Not found, left hungry, my friend wings the last words of Google Maps and city planners, but only themselves and their own fear to improvise.
Inability to stay on one decision, the desire to grasp the immensity, to examine the issue backwards and forwards, before making the move — one of the first symptoms of FoMO. Workaholics will understand — it’s psychologically difficult to proceed to grade work, not appreciating the amount of information. But nowadays, so many that a comprehensive analysis is able to hold a powerful computer, but not man with his limited supply of time, energy, need to sleep, eat, walk, raise children, and to communicate in society. In short, the need to live. At the dawn of a career as a journalist, preparing for interviews, I thought was my professional duty to study everything the hero told me. The texts I copied to a separate file and read carefully. Remember, it was the seventh hour and a 134-page interview with johnny Depp, and I suddenly became deeply care about what he told regional newspaper in Texas — I sat down and made up questions that were interesting to me personally.
Once American psychologists mark Lepper and Sheena Iyengar conducted an experiment: they put in a supermarket stand with 24 types of jam and offered to customers to try and choose the best. Subjects were divided into two groups: those who tasted everything and never took action or took it long and hard. And those who stayed 8-10 options and chose among them. First, seeking to arm themselves with all the information available, scientists call maximization. And those who intuitively feels when to say to yourself “stop”, — optimizers. First, quickly losing power and eventually survive the so-called “paralysis solution”. Second, as a rule, do better and take leadership positions.
Maximization, with all their seeming thoroughness and thoughtfulness, in fact, pose a serious threat to the company — after some time their efficiency inevitably drops. — The fact of constant consumption of information creates maximization the illusion that they are productive. Although in fact, they spend a lot of time collecting and analyzing information, but the decision and the actual active steps fuse no longer remains. Carefully examine the range of sneakers, but did not begin to run. Make an extensive comparison table wheelchairs, confused finally and eventually get a used bassinet from a neighbor. Wathes tape Facebook right up until the point where you started two hours ago, without reason, without result, simply to deliver a tick: “Viewed”. Such is the strategy of maximisation.
Polyglot Dmitry Petrov is convinced: in order to master a foreign language, need to study textbooks on grammar, need to start talking immediately with the error, but fearlessly. Freedom first, then rules. So learn the language of children, and in the same way they learn about the world. We embraced FoMO adults try to tread carefully, assessing every movement, remembering the laws and formulas, hunched under the weight read, seen and heard, trying on the experience of others and with each step, losing interest.
Who did not – that was late
“Few know his price — should still be in demand” M. Zhvanetsky
Commodity-money relations with itself — it is what stung susceptible to FoMO. Fear to miss something important always exists on the background of global dissatisfaction with life and envy towards more successful as you think, users of social networks. But the reality of a truly optimistic pictures flooded the Internet, have a direct relationship. No hurry to share the sadness and sorrow, except that of the social flash mob. The demand give rise to positive fashion pictures, funny hashtags and the life that at least in several parts unavailable to most. As mentioned Samantha Jones in the TV series “Sex and the city”, you can be the idol of youth, only if you wear things they can’t afford. Every day, watching the tape Instagram vanity fair, only a very steadfast tin soldier will not wonder: “what’s wrong with me?” Will someone answer that the reason is low self-esteem. But I would say about an adequate perception of themselves. The word “self” confused by the embedded assessment itself. Why? On what scale? Who are the judges? High self-esteem implies some delusions of grandeur and a need to show off the achievements. Understated speaks of insecurity. And mental health is somewhere on the ground level, with no signs plus and minus. A private entity does not need to estimate or comparison with others cannot be avoided, you need to feel like you feel cold, heat, hunger or thirst. Absolute, at the level of sensation itself, the adoption of guarantees: you acknowledge that unique. Not better or worse. And while I see the uniqueness of each person.
”In College years my roommate in the Dorm always slept with headphones — enabled radio, where the soundtrack to her dreams broadcast DJ and music was playing. To remain in silence meant to be alone — and if fear of loneliness is too strong, it is easier to turn background: radio, TV, computer. Endlessly flipping through the tape, we would remind ourselves: we are not alone in the Universe, somewhere there was a life. But maybe, after all, to see the stars?..”
It is believed that FoMO — the cost of a new reality, in varying degrees, experiencing everything, and therefore he is already his normal. But I do not agree. I have a feeling that FoMO, like any fear, it is better to eliminate than to tolerate. Maintenance work never hurt. To customize the ribbon, it was the most useful and fun. Choose the information that makes you richer and expand your beliefs about yourself and the world, and not only confirms what you already know. Take a walk, meet with friends and play sports. For example, made it a rule not to post holiday pictures daily and post them later, on his arrival, one of the albums — as it was before, when no one has seen what’s happened to the captured film. One American psychologist called Facebook “a major experiment on children that got out of control.” But we are not victims, if no longer afraid.