“Body language doesn’t lie. Even if the body is in the grave,” Dr. Lightman, «Lie to Me».
In nature there are no identical people. We are all different. We see, hear, and think. And we lie in different ways. And because there is no standard set of gestures lies, pointing to the fact that we speak the truth. But if he were, we would have found how to trick it.
The truth is somewhere to the left
A lie requires self-control and stress. The voltage may be explicit or hidden, but it is easy to notice, if you look to the left side of the body. It is controlled worse than the right. This is because the left and right sides of the body are controlled by different hemispheres of our brain.
The left hemisphere is responsible for speech and mental activity, the right for emotion and imagination. Since the connection control cross, the work of the left hemisphere affects the right side of the body, and the right is on the left.
What we want to show others is reflected in the right half of our body, and what we really feel on the left.
For example, if the person is right-handed and a lot of gesturing with his left hand, it could mean that he is lying, especially if the right hand requires less. Any misalignment of body parts indicates insincerity.
“The brain is so busy inventing lies, the body loses its synchrony,” Dr. Lightman, “Lie to me”.
The deception is annoying
Change the color of the face (pallor, redness, spots) and twitching his small muscles (eyelid, eyebrow) indicate we live in stress and help to identify the deception.
Voltage, which is manifested in frequent blinking, squinting or rubbing of the eye is an unconscious desire to close the eyes to what is happening. These gestures our brain tries to block the lie, doubt or uneasy feeling.
As far as the interviewee is comfortable or uncomfortable, can be judged by his pupils: they are narrowing tells about the discontent, the expansion of the pleasure. And on eye movements easy to understand, he is going to tell the truth or to lie.
“Shifty eyes, many people tend to believe evidence of a guilty conscience. But as you know, the worst offenders can calmly look You in the face”, Agatha Christie.
The lie on the tip of the nose
Unexpectedly, but the deceiver can issue their own nose. The truth, he unconsciously begins to move the tip of the nose and take him to the side. And people who doubt the honesty of the interlocutor, can unwittingly inflate the nostrils, as if to say: “I smell: there is something fishy”.
When the subscriber removes his hands into his pockets and closes his palm is a gesture of lying or insincerity: he’s hiding something or not telling. Remember kids: they hide hands in pockets or behind your back, if you do something wrong.
Hidden palms can be compared with a closed mouth. Experienced sellers always look at the palm of the client when they are talking about abandoning the purchase. The true objection is taken with open hands.
“To be honest” there’s no honesty
Our language not less eloquent than the language of gestures and facial expressions. If a direct question You get an evasive answer followed by the phrase “be honest”, then listen to the speech of your interlocutor. It is necessary to question his sincerity when repeating phrases like:
– You just have to believe me…
– Believe me, I speak the truth…
– You know me, I am not able to cheat…
– I with You absolutely Frank…
If You think that the other person is lying
Change yourself for him: copy his posture and gestures. This way you will establish trust, and the deceiver will be more difficult to lie.Not go to clean water and do not blame. Pretend you didn’t hear, and ask again. Give the other person a chance to tell the truth.Ask more direct questions. Actively use facial expressions and gestures, causing a reaction.
Interesting facts about how we lie
Professor of communication Cornell University Jeffrey Hancock, exploring in the week of 30 College students found that the phone has become the most common instrument of deception.
On the phone people lie in 37% of cases. Then there are personal interviews (27%), instant messengers (21%) and emails (14%).