In the mind of each of us, I’m sure there are a couple of postulates, which are actually – rooted myths.
1. “If to release the anger – it becomes easier”
Often we hear that “it is necessary to give vent to the feelings” – to shout, to kill the pillow, beat stress doll or kick the sofa. In fact, there is a special therapy against depression, is built on this “power” method. Supposedly, it is better to break a knuckle sandwich than the face of his boss (and rightly so). Only here on an emotional level all these tricks are not much different from the banal aggression directed at the true object of anger. In other words, is useful in this little.
According to the recent findings of scientists, releasing steam, we actually have more “cheat” yourself, and only. Aggression is not going away any manifestation of anger: she is hiding deeper below again soon to remind myself. And what seems like a “relief”, in fact – the emotional fatigue after the release of negativity. In addition, the researchers warn: wrath and anger are addictive. The prudent thing is to “forgive and release” as they say. Yes, say it – much easier said than done. But there are situations when still not quite clear against whom to direct their anger. And yet, forgiveness is the only right way. That is why Buddhist monks indulge in meditation. That is why it is hard to imagine them smashing everything “in the name of relaxation.”
2. “Just believe in yourself and make it happen”
Belief in yourself – a thing which they say a lot. Based on this theory, people with high self esteem and unshakable faith in own forces perform better in school, have many friends, and generally succeed. In fact, in some ways, this attitude really helpful. But also very dangerous. About the benefits remember about the danger, unfortunately, forget.
The reality is this: non-stop cultivation “faith in yourself” (especially groundless) in many cases leads to aggression and inflated sense of superiority to unimaginable limits. The confirmation of a large-scale research that proved daily seminars on achieving success and believing in yourself tend to accumulate, turning in an aggressive narcissist. No, this does not mean that believing in yourself is not necessary. Only here the belief is helpful in reasonable quantities, as well as any medicine. And the faith one is not enough: the work has not been canceled.
3. “In the sect are only weak-willed people”
This is another myth, which, probably, would like to believe everyone who considers himself at least a little intelligent and strong-willed. Only here the stubborn statistics says that 95% of the members of all cults, considered as destructive, in fact – people are not dumber than the average educated citizen. With willpower they are also fine, and sometimes come across some very smart, talented, disciplined, and even successful. In other words, it is an absolutely traditional slice of any society. And this is only scarier because it means that the risk of falling into destructive sects have each. Psychologists say, the risk is increased in moments of emotional turmoil: fired, had a fight with your best friend, broke up with her lover- any of these situations, peeped experienced “recruiter” might become a surprise.
4. “You have a problem? Imagine a situation where everything is good”
Perhaps we should clarify: there are certain spiritual and psychological practice that uses the technique of rendering all sorts of amenities. But this – this reception, one of many. If you rely on this trick by itself is nothing but cognitive dissonance does not make – believe scientists. The brain will still understand what the person has one or the other problem, parallel to remembering the day at the beach or a fun party. Clash of the polar images can only aggravate the condition of the uninitiated in the psychology of man, warn experts.
So any problem must be considered (preferably not alone), consider the action plan and take some steps. And then, having received the first positive results, think positive. By the way, solving the problem, also does not necessarily mean something bad! The main thing – do not rely on only one visualization of pleasant moments.
5. “The lie detector trick”
All lies, a lie detector is no exception. Polygraph entered the arena in the first half of the 20th century, from the time talks about it a lot. But not all and now I understand that the polygraph really doesn’t know the truth, it just measures the indicators of the body, and the person assigned to it, compares the data with the standard reactions to truth and lies. Rather, with the reactions that are considered to be standard. But in the world we have, fortunately, a diversity prevails over the monotony. So all of this is relative.
Of course, like it all was so clear, but in 2003 scientists from the National Academy of science (USA) decided to dot the “i”. Their study showed that the detector lies in predicting the truth is undoubtedly more accurate than, say, the method of divination by the caramels, but to be ideal it is very far. In fact, his efficiency in this case is only slightly better than flipping a coin. So when it is used, it is oriented not so much on the answer to a specific question, but on the overall picture and compare with average parameters. In General, the predictions of the polygraph and predictions Chinese fortune cookies seem to have something in common: they both can be right. But I could be wrong…
6. “Women are more amorous than men”
Jokes and gossip claim that women fall in love is much easier, at a glance, drowning in the eyes of any men. Moreover, they almost immediately begin to think about the permanence and marriage, thinking up a plan to “capture territory.” Only now science has on this account a different point of view: according to a recent study, men fall in love faster! And women just trying to be cautious, scrutinizing and wondering. In addition, to check the men were almost the same fans to gossip, and beautiful ladies! Perhaps the amorous ladies – this is not a myth at all, but a stereotype which has outlived its usefulness? Modern ladies seem to have to be more careful than their predecessors!