So, happy people:
Absolutely not interested in what others think about them
Their position is well expressed by Coco Chanel: “I don’t care what you think of me, because I don’t think about you at all.” We used to depend on the opinion of others, but around us so many people, and everyone has their own point of view. In what could become the life of each of us, if we try to please everyone? You do what you think is right. Perhaps your actions are wrong, but this is your experience, and it is priceless. Everyone loves a confident, independent people who have a clear stance. Become that person and go through life with dignity, and don’t look back every time in search of approval or condemnation of others.
Are able to see the situation from the outside
Is neither a clear victory nor a clear defeat. It is therefore best to remain neutral. It’s not easy, but it’s worth it to learn. If you follow the Chinese wisdom, the right will come one who will look at his life in a detached way — like sitting on a mountain top monkey watches over the fight between two tigers. Some part of us has to stay the same monkey, dispassionately observing life from the outside in. This allows us to make the right decisions and not to waste energy where a fight to get involved is not worth it.
Don’t torment yourself with regrets
Missed opportunities, failed love and the perfidy of friends, who foolishly been entrusted with the secrets of the heart… we All tend to mean something to regret, but there is nothing more empty and useless. “Regret should not last more than five minutes, says the American psychologist Olaf miner. — Immersed in self-blame, you lose not only time but also huge amount of vital energy”. Missed opportunities do not return, but stop smearing tears and analyze the cause of the failure will be a great choice.
They now how to thank you
And it is not the duty of gratitude, and one that comes from the heart. Gratitude can create with our life is a miracle, and the point here is this: when we thank, we focus areas not on what we have, and that is, and such, as you know, attracts like. Be grateful and give thanks in advance even for what hasn’t happened yet. And every night before bed be sure to remember at least five reasons to say thank you to life.
Cherish the sense of novelty
Having achieved something, we enjoy it very long, and then the sense of novelty will be leaving us. But it is necessary to cling with hands and feet. Remember moments of his triumph. The happy event should become the generator of your future victories, so again and again evoke and re-worry all shades of happy emotional States. To set new goals and achieve them — that’s fine. But very often in the pursuit of what yet, we do not have time to fully enjoy what is already there. It makes us unhappy.
Know how to laugh at themselves
The irony of pretty good quality. But if a person can be ironic in relation to himself, he is invulnerable. Psychologists believe that self — irony-a sign of a developed intellect. The ability to laugh at oneself is inherent only with strong spirit and mind of people who are above all prejudices, it is directly associated with cheerfulness and optimism.
Live in “today”
So simply and brilliantly formulated one of the habits of happy people American psychologist Dale Carnegie. People living under the yoke of past mistakes, labels, and negative experiences, on the one hand, and the fear to fail in the future, on the other, do not live at all. They are more like frozen zombies. Fear paralyzes them and they cannot understand that there is no yesterday, no tomorrow, only today. For example, you decided to spring become more slender and to go on a diet. Past experience says: “Nonsense, nothing will happen — you’ve taken a year ago and gave up. Should I start again?”. The negative experience of singing along to fear of the future: “Now I will begin, but how long could I last? Still tear through the week!”. But the past is already gone and future has not come. So you hold teeth in it “here and now” — and then you’ll realize that you all.
Never cease to learn
Reading, traveling, new Hobbies, foreign languages, desire to explore this world and never cease to be surprised, nor 8, nor in 80 years — is another amazing habit of happy people because it allows them to realize themselves.
They never get jealous
We used to compare ourselves with others and to relate their performance to others. A little healthy competition is nothing bad, but often develops into a feeling of dissatisfaction with himself and envy towards more successful people. Meanwhile, there’s only one person you can compare yourself to is yourself, but in the past. And if today you have become just a little better than yesterday — you are the winner and entitled to be jealous of himself.
Choose friends wisely
Robert Greene in his excellent book “the 48 laws of power” writes: “someone else’s hardships and misery can be disastrous — the emotional state as infectious as disease. You may think that you are noble and save the drowning, but very often the poor are bringing trouble on yourself — and they’ll bring them to you. It is important to distinguish between the people who really need help, and those who, through their actions, thoughts and deeds from time to time call trouble on your head. The most dangerous (and contagious) type is people who are always cranky and used to consider themselves eternal victims. Run away from them like the plague. Chat with happy — and they will infect you with happiness. Connect with generous — and will be the same. If you dark stay people cheerful”.