“People do not love perfect people, but love those who are for them”

My friend Kristen is the medical examiner. Woman 43 years. She does karate, often curses and is not afraid to die. She smokes a lot and only strong cigarettes. Kristen married. He is younger than Kristen for 9 years and very beautiful in appearance. The girls no end. He is a leading architect in a very respectable construction firm. Know how to cook. This is the most delicious I’ve ever eaten in my life. And writes children’s stories for year old twins. If Kristen is at work, he puts them to bed. And stands up to him at night, because Kristen is tired.

My second friend, Julia, is a military psychologist. Was in Beslan. Her first husband, a military surgeon, was killed 12 years ago. Last year she married a cameraman, who filmed a report about one of the rescue operations. First they were just friends, and then my friend had an accident, and he nursed her for six months. Took a leave from work, not to travel. Hard worked nights. Friend, despite the predictions of doctors, he recovered. Son Julia calls him father. And he was proud that the boy went to the math Olympics in Stockholm.

Ann is a Professor of philosophy. Married man without higher education. But he builds her a house, preparing meals, loves children and prohibits making noise in the house because Mrs Ann prepares for lectures. Anna is a stickler for academic career and plans for the year to go for an internship in China. Husband loves Ann. He does not know who Hegel and the existentialists did not read. But he knows what Ann foot size, and don’t forget to change summer to winter tires on her car. And my husband Ann the real business of manufacturing woodworking machines. Not an oligarch, but earns well.

When people start telling me what should be the ideal woman to be loved and called married, I really laugh out loud. Because people do not love perfect people, but love those who are for them. They are not ideal.

So do not be afraid to live as you want, and be whoever I want. That’s all I wanted to tell you today. Lots of love to you!