Intelligence agents, psychologists, politicians, professionals special business structures, and sometimes ordinary people use these methods of manipulation of consciousness to achieve their goals.
Most often, the victim does not even know what is the object of exposure. The most resistant easy and do whatever you want with them.
We have prepared for you a description of these techniques and also technologies of protection against each method of manipulation. Be careful! Add yourself to avoid getting caught!
1. The manipulation of guilt or resentment
Use of resentment or guilt is one of the surest methods of manipulation of a loved one. The image of the unfortunate victim often gives its bearer “dividends” in the form of secret powers and reparations. It happens that the person lives in the role of victim over the years and already is getting used to it, but in others it does not cause sympathy and desire to help, but, on the contrary, provoked to anger and even aggression.
Because actually, as strange as it sounds, the victim is always at the top of the pyramid in the family system. Such a person influences others through their feelings of guilt. Over time, the people involved, directly or not, begin to understand this manipulation and react to her aggression.
It is best to work out in the family usually forget grudges. And do not recall each other’s past sins during family quarrels. No good it still will not. Partner if something offended you, it is better to discuss the issue. Civilized and correct, without giving estimates happening nor partner.
To clarify the situation and to adjust the rules of engagement to reduce the likelihood of recurrence of a similar situation. Say metaphorically: resentment write in the sand, and the joy of carving in marble and granite. Make it the norm for your family and see how much easier and happier your life will be.
2. Manipulation of anger
There are people who go out of himself to force you to succumb to them. It is the manipulators who use so-called tactical anger.
The worst way to go about such a person. After all, if his technique works, he will be in the future to do so with you and with others. To get started you will need your determination: you must not give or allow himself to scream. If the manipulator continues to scream, go away. Continue to behave in any subsequent encounters when he gets angry, until an angry opponent learns to behave rationally with you.
In relation to their own anger, which you often will provoke, it is necessary to develop a conscious position and rules. Remember that anger you, maybe even be able to deliver his speech the best. But it is likely that later you will regret and will regret for a lifetime.
3. Manipulation of silence
People resort to the significant silence when they want to show how upset they are. Otherwise, in their opinion, you would think that the problem is not important for them. People often resort to silence on insignificant occasions, create an unpleasant atmosphere, which can spoil the working relationship. Silence designed to make you feel guilty when you realize how upset the man.
Don’t fall , because if it works once, silent will resort to a similar trick all the time. But don’t be with him cutting; behave as if everything is normal. Wait, let him break the silence. If you have any discussions with the silent, listen to it with an open mind. Friendly and reasonably explain to him the reasons behind your point of view.
Even if your partner will continue to sulk and after your story, you’ll know you did everything you could. You did not retreat, only to avoid the silence, which aims to get you to surrender.
4. The manipulation of love
“If you love something…” This maneuver is designed to close people experiencing the arm is a positive attitude. The fear of being rejected and losing love is strong in people from childhood. Many parents inadvertently tried to manipulate the child, saying, “If you don’t listen to me/do what I say, etc., then I will cease to communicate with you/love you/care about you etc”.
Love is not the subject of trades, and the result of the relationship. Noticing the exploitation of their feelings, think about how you need it.
5. Manipulation of hope
Shiny promises often conceal a desire for short-term benefit of their author. Fabulous promises of Cat Basilio and Fox Alice were motivated by their desire to get quickly gold, sweets in the pocket of Pinocchio. Often such songs lead to more informed citizens burying cash “on the Field of Miracles in the land of Fools.”
Arab proverb says:
“Smart hopes for their business, and a fool relies on hope.”
Trust the facts, not opinions. Making decisions based on real experience, not on someone’s history or assumptions.
6. Manipulation of vanity
Small hooks, catchy sound excessively inflated ego, may look like an innocent comment. Praise, used in the calculation to achieve their goals: “You clearly compose reports! Sure and the fact that I want to offer you, no one will cope better than you!” Or, conversely, challenge with a hint of incompetence: “A little?..”, “You probably would not be able to…”
Remember, whether you are planning to make a presentation to the proposed provocative proposition? Check that the conceived their interests and abilities.
7. Manipulation of irony or sarcasm
The manipulator initially selects an ironic tone, critical remarks and observations, peppered with jokes or provocative comments.
To do hurt, without its own participation impossible. Don’t believe — just try to take offense, no matter what specific. If you do not succumb to provocations manipulator, realizing or reminding yourself who and what you’re dealing with, you will be able to maintain clarity of thought, precision of language and emotional balance.