I have to say: to some it may not seem very romantic, some very unromantic and some might think it’s cynicism. Yes, what we want to share a little reminiscent of the behavior and the characters sublime, living solely at the behest of his quivering heart, book heroines. But, first, nothing prevents from reading, name article some unromantic word and completely forget that you the text when something caught my eye. And secondly, to be completely honest, discussed below, in fact, does not contradict the ability to love and continue to live according to the dictates of his heart. And talk we want about how constantly not to step on the same rake. Or rather, about what habits to avoid in order to love, had not that, as they say, God sent, and that you can love without having to close your eyes to things to which they long to close still does not work. Anyway, I want to believe that this collection of tips psychologists can be useful for you.
1. And one of the most common mistakes – do not trust your first impression. Yes, it is, of course, can be deceptive, too subjective and is often dictated by fatigue (for example, if you met after work) or some kind of emotional reasons. However, experts argue that first meeting gives a fairly correct idea of the man. You’re not tied to him emotionally and, therefore, able to assess as objectively as possible. In the end, it has been well said that a second chance to make a first impression will not. Therefore, if a man had made, say, at you the impression of a womanizer, then ignore this “bell” is very short-sighted. Pay attention to it before him don Juan tricks will have effect and will deprive you of the ability to make sound decisions.
2. The second mistake, which it is time to shout in the voice, it is the lack of focus on yourself. Or on the attitude. And if you want, a relationship with him. This much talked about, but to sense from it a little. So I’ll say it again: someone to love, you must first love yourself. Only then that someone will love and respect in return. No one can love a man who sees no reason to love yourself. And when people know his worth, he will never settle for less. Do not waste time, energy and feelings on a man who is not able to evaluate it all.
3. The next item is the desire to develop relationships with everyone with whom fate brought, and who you like. There is, of course, that would be great, nobody argues. But in order to start a relationship, not enough to want it for yourself. Need to the same like and the other person. So do not expect everyone to expect that he will be Elected. The Only Unique that is for life. To avoid constant disappointments. Psychologists advise to look at each new person as an opportunity to gain new experience that helps to better understand yourself and your desires. And closer to understanding who you really need for a harmonious relationship.
4. And from the previous paragraph implies the following: many women limit themselves in the opportunity to meet a new person. Simply put, rarely agree on dates. But it is a date or not binding! Especially the first one. Yes, everyone wants to meet the perfect partner/companion, but how to meet him, if you refuse the offered variants? And, especially, how to recognize it among the crowd? The more you date, the better you understand what you need, the more direct feel and behave with people. So, the more you will have a chance to charm someone who will love you truly. In the end, the skills of seduction, too, need someone to sharpen! That does not narrow the potential number of such “zones” where you can train without fear to make a fatal mistake.
5. The fifth mistake is the lack of boundaries, clearly defined comfort zone. We are not talking about how to set the other person’s rules, not at all. Here are a few more, namely: it is extremely important to make it clear to the man that you accept, and that – under any circumstances. Because then, as many certainly know from my own experience, to regain the lost boundaries of their own comfort is almost impossible. And if you manage to do it, only at the cost of constant conflict and, consequently, is hopelessly broken relationships.
6. The following is a common problem – the excess of romance. People (and mostly this sin, it is women who allows his dreams of happiness itself literally blind. Then rushes headlong into the maelstrom and is totally dedicated to the passion, euphoria and lovely fantasies, actually depriving themselves of the ability to objectively assess what is happening and its prospects.
7. The seventh error is also coming from excess. Only this time from an excess of delicacy. Many girls are afraid to ask your new friend serious questions. Well, well, maybe not immediately, maybe not in the first date, but what is stopping during the second-third meeting clarify for yourself interesting moments? Yes, nothing prevents! And if the man said that just recently got divorced, or I’m not ready for children, at the same time, your goal is family with all its attributes (including time as the birth of a child), then God himself commanded to find out, what kind of relationship this man is looking for. In the end, what’s wrong, so don’t waste your time on something that now is not your main goal in life?
8. Another huge problem – the hatred of men. And this is, unfortunately, a pretty common story. If you “hate” someone seems not the most appropriate word, I don’t object to it at the discretion of each was replaced with adequate his case synonymous. And not matter what word you call your belief that “real men left.” Importantly, many believe it. Of course, the smoke without fire does not happen, and the confidence that the good men extinct, stems from his personal experience. Or from stories of friends/colleagues/girlfriends. And yet, fundamentally wrong to judge all men on several instances are not the best. First, it is unfair – the good guys are, and they don’t deserve this. And secondly, everyone receives according to his faith, and, claiming that the man was crushed, the woman automatically attracts another “pot-bellied little thing” that brings joy and happiness, but it helps her to see once again in their own “rightness”. This phenomenal mechanism – how the law of meanness. Because almost always works.
9. And last, but in no case not less significant the error is in the habit of living from relationships to relationships. Many women, unfortunately, tend to think that their life is not complete if they are currently not Dating anyone. And because by doing so they alienate potential love. Only here, unlike the previous paragraph, is no mystery. There’s just nothing more attractive than a happy woman who loves her life and openly shares his love with the world. Such is simply impossible not to fall in love! Just as it is impossible to fall in love with the one that goes through life with extinct eyes, looking only at his feet and shoulders. As we know, like attracts like: the one who wants to attract into your life happiness, must be a source of happiness.