Secret №1: The man and the woman are looking for in a relationship attention
Any dissatisfaction in a relationship arises from the fact that one of the parties receives less attention from the partner. It may seem that relationships fail because of the complex nature, bad habits, obscene acts of one or both partners, but if the partners give attention to each other, these reasons can lead to rupture. But when one partner ceases to give attention to the other, then the battle begins, in which there is a place for all negative feelings.
Man and woman differently operate attention.
Actually there are two attention. Feminine form of attention when the person is fully listening to the interlocutor, i.e. without resistance perceives the image transmitted by the interlocutor, and the male form of attention — involvement in a process. In this case, the person fully involved and not distracted to anything else.
Man longs for the woman listened to him, his mouth open and agreeing with all his arguments. Took his information implicitly. In other words, was the female form of attention. About the way the man expects that the woman will be always ready to have for making love with him. And the woman listened to him, the man applies his reception-treatment care. It involves her (or those who are interested) in the process of formation of new experiences, so she (they) opened and started to listen.
The man in the relationship always sets the direction, offers to show interest in something new, where, in his opinion, can arise new impressions, and thus he will begin to listen.
Woman do not support long-term man in his involvements, it becomes a source of discomfort and gradually he stops to gain her attention.
The man who stopped to involve a woman into the sphere of their interests, not giving her new experiences, causes in it disappointment. The woman believes that the weak man who couldn’t convince her to listen to him, man finds a bitch that woman is not involved in his proposal.
However, if the attention and involvement existed in the relations of men and women at least some time, there is a bond that lives by itself and is the second secret.
Secret №2: Between a man and a woman, there is a sensual connection
If your relationship breaks down, the connection remains and causes suffering in one hand and pumping energy for the second. While the connection exists, partners alternately change the direction of the movement of energy through this channel. Hence, then one, then the second feels better, then worse partner.
Any relationship is a process of energy exchange, and the feelings, emotions, behaviors – the result of it.
What relationships can be represented in the form of a pipe between a man and a woman, which is pumped feelings and emotions from one partner to another, greatly simplifies an explanation of why the breakup one of the partners is bad, and another, as they say, luck is in the hands goes.
Connection, pipe, anchor – call it what you want. It is not visible, but the discomfort is. How not see waves that come to your mobile phone, but the sound in the tube is reality.
Many of you often felt long, exhausting periods of illness, when I wanted at least a small support of a partner in the form of SMS, call or kind words, but there is no sound, no stirring. And when you hear the rumors that the partner is lucky?! Inside begin boiling resentment, revenge, desire to rant and rave! What should I do?
A) Realize that your connection – an independent unit of the Universe. Exactly the same as the pipe cleaner. Pipe is and it is attached to you. The link pipe will always look for the moment to let you know about myself. To do this the pipe will cause negative feelings and energy outflow.
B) After you realized it, you can use the tube on purpose the last time. Take away through her partner, all that belongs to you and give him everything that belongs to him. Thus, the need for pipe disappears. She dissolved.
C) Thank the person for what he was in your life. Give him a place in the heart.
The relationship did not come to rupture and suffering, you need to know about the third secret:
Secret №3: Man should divorce the mother before you marry the woman
The man always has his first woman. It’s his mother. As a boy, he attached to it the first twelve years of life. Further, the relationship weakens, but it always breaks?
If the mother is self – sufficient, Mature person, it is easy to let the son into the world. The mother sends the son into the father’s hands. Now the man responsible for the man. So manliness passes from father to son, but these days not so smooth.
Often the mother herself remains little Inner girl full of fears and distrust. And then she can not trust her son who whatsoever. Neither the father of the child, which maybe it is not there, nor even the girl who has his eye on the most precious thing in her life. The mother does not give freedom to his son, decides everything for him. If she knew that his own hand turns him into a loser! But she doesn’t want to know. She is the mother and most of all loves his own flesh and blood!
Subconsciously she wants to be needed and wanted him at least, because he feels a complete nonentity and raising their own kind.
“So what! she said. — While I’m alive it will be under my protection and fully secured.”
So I want to ask: when you’re gone, so is he to follow you to another world?
Mom, please, the country needs men! Let them go – let them be men! Love them truly, not out of fear for his crying inner child.
After the man “divorce” my mother and him, according to the Bible, and cleave to the wife, there will be what is hidden in the fourth secret:
Secret №4: Woman will always want to deprive a man of manhood that he has not got another
Manliness is the ability to penetrate into the unknown, into a world where nothing is yet known and where it is necessary to create order. The universe has put this responsibility on men, forcing them to expand their masculinity, overcoming obstacles and revealing the mysteries of nature.
The man should be involved in the new, learn new and to fetch knowledge to their women. So his growing manhood.
And what of his woman? It is the universe that wants to be explored. She then revealed to him, hides some of its secrets, in order to arouse his interest in new knowledge itself.
And when he wants to start to explore another universe, it occurs first confused and then hurt. You never knew me! How can you study something else? I can’t forgive you!”
Seeing its purpose – to learn something new, she offers him her “perfect decision”: stay HOME AND HUNT, LEARN HERE!
So it deprives him of masculinity, because now he can’t refuse her – it would be a scandal: “How? Do you want me to change? Now get out of here for good!”
He agrees to stay close and slowly becomes her son, and she to him – the mother. Their relationship come to naught, but it achieved the main thing – next is the one who will always learn and maintain its universe.
What exit from this situation? He fifth secret:
Secret №5: Man is growing in status only to love his woman
These women had two: a mother and a wife. If a man does not grow in status, so love to him there.
What I want are all the people? Right, development, growth! The growth in human daily life looks like a transition from one status to another. To increase the status, need resources, support. Who gives it? He who believes, loves!
When a couple a long time can not move from their status in the higher grade, for example, for a long time, it is impossible to save up for the expansion of housing, this means that the man as the breadwinner and the hunter, not strong enough. He needs the support. Support it can only take from the woman who by the power of his faith will show him that he is strong and cool.
Man not stronger than woman. A man becomes stronger when he allows you to feel a strong woman. The woman is not weaker than men. She just understands that her man needs to feel like a hero when he travels across the expanses of her as yet unexplored universe.
The woman is ready to give a man energy in order to engage their attention to her person, to her interests. Woman gives energy, remember, through their attention and love to man. There is much to reproach a man for the lack of growth and money, but it’s the woman who gives him love.
What love find out from the sixth mystery:
Secret №6: Love is the desire to develop your partner
If your partner does not want development, he does not love you.
Often heard statements like: “Why do you have these books, trainings, seminars? Stay home, take care of children!”
He wants to say to these people saying this? He asks to give him attention. If he gets a lot, but still continues to keep a partner in a “Golden cage”, it does not want growth and development to its close.
Why are all these people around? Because they are both profitable to remain wounded children and play the role of their unsatisfied ancestors: one a victim, the other the executioner. One is a jerk, other – superiority.
One of two who are in the top positions, in a position of superiority, one more wounded, but hides the truth from himself. His strategy: to not feel your pain, you have to be steeper than the other. Towering over the victims, I do not notice that the very same miserable as they are. This strategy leads him to the decision not to give your partner a chance to develop, or partner escapes from under his slavery. Wake up, you will see that the path to freedom is open and gets away with it.
But growth does not stop, and then slowly, slowly, through its role of executioner, a tyrant, a partner starts independently and within the established “Golden cage” to pull out of her sacrifice to her wounded inner children.
The agonizing process and concluded it in the seventh mystery:
Secret №7: Man serves the woman with our every action
Even negative drunkenness, idleness, beatings. Man is the mirror of women, which reflects all the things that she does not want to know.
Even in the most difficult relationships, in the so-called dysfunctional families, man and woman serve each other. They mirror what they do not want to admit. Two are always together, until they have something to give each other. And perhaps they give each other pain, humiliation, suffering. But they do not diverge. And the reason is only one: the story of the ancestors. The two repeat the history of their ancestors, showing his love not to the partner and the parent of: grandmother, grandfather, or an aborted child’s mother.
If you don’t go with someone who you does not develop and causes suffering, you, thanks to his tyrant, realize little and recovered from those wounded inner children that were created during the life of your ancestors. Sorry, but… it’s so Thank tyrant, because in his family the same story as your. Because you and a couple.
Two fighting for love, but you can win, just knowing Eighth secret:
Mystery №8: To be the man to beat a woman, he needs to win the battle in her eyes, a woman to defeat a man, she needs to lose him
Taoists said: “the Woman – wide and man – deep.” This means that the woman feels good when she can bare his soul wide wide, and for this she need to let yourself trust the world to accept it, not wanting to change.
Such a condition happens in the field when lay on the grass and let the sky, the sun, the air, the grass, the ants and the sun. And all-all-all. Feminine energy is flowing horizontally, it is like the Earth.
And male energy vertical, and the man feels great, when, rising like a sturdy tree that penetrates deeply rooted in the ground.
The man is powered by the female energy, as a tree is nourished from earth. In relationships, if a woman towers over the man, she feels the victory, but in the end loses because the tree under the earth means earthquake. In these moments the woman shakes like mountains during the aftershocks, and she feels deeply hidden anxiety.
With each victory over men-trees anxiety grows, and this increases fatigue. Victory is not pleasing, because on this earth for a long time nobody wants to settle. In the mountains always few inhabitants and they were all there for one reason: once their ancestors fled from danger in these mountain gorges, to where they were not found. Their descendants became the highlanders. I myself am a Highlander, I can say that.
The woman who loses the man, always the winner. Her energy is calm, like a plain. To its territory many come in and life is becoming more and more diverse. A woman of many friends and assistants, because she’s not shaking her by the energy of those who decided to approach her directly.
Now she is ready to new growth, which is revealed in the ninth mystery.
Secret №9: Man wants to turn his woman into a Queen, a woman wants on ready king
A woman is always looking for a man-a teacher who can help her to know itself. Its vast the universe needs a man who will not pass by a variety of its phenomena and will be able to include all of her female status: girl, mistress, mistress and Queen.
And that’s only the king because she needs a strong man that grew over their childhood fears and quelled the spirits of the ancestors.
And a man wants to be the Creator of women, he is ready to make his woman a Queen and so jealously listens to her words about what she would like to learn somewhere, but not him. To turn a man into a king, the woman should give him Royal attention and reverence to recognize his service to her. He is the king, and the woman brings the man to realized the condition of the king, always happy and lives in harmony and abundance.
Every man understands this and to feel like a king, he must know the tenth secret:
Secret №10: Man must understand that his tone affecting the status of women
She loves the ears. Therefore, man should be able to love the voice, taking care of their intonations. A strong man-a king – one who can understand the feelings of women. Feelings – not words. They, like leaves in the wind. The wind shaking.
Ordinary man does not even suggest that his words and tone – this is the wind, which can scare a woman.
The woman can be frightened so that hide and refuse male attention. And without her notice, he ceases to grow in status, so the king knows that the softer his voice, the quicker the success. The king gives warmth. The king is male, the Sun, and the Queen is a flower, enjoying the Sun and gentle breeze.